Here are the five things that definitely say another is either not interested in carrying on with the relationship (if you aren’t imagining the relationship in the first place) or are not interested:
1. S/ he does NOT introduce you to friends and keeps you a secret: Unless there is secrecy due to parental disapproval or HR trouble (for office romance cases), most people will introduce their partners to their friend circle. If yours is not doing so, there could be two reasons: You are not ‘important’ enough to be introduced (and are a private convenience or ‘time-pass’) or they don’t consider you good enough and consider you an embarrassment. If s/he talks to you (or meets) you in private but denies even knowing you in public, they are not serious about the relationship and you are about to be history soon.
2. S/ he does not talk to you (as much) anymore: There cannot be a clearer sign of another not being interested than them NOT wanting to talk to you. If you have been talking to the other for some time – whether over coffee or on the phone – and now they don’t want to talk anymore or don’t seem to have much time, they’ve either lost interest or are not interested. Replying in monosyllables, yawning on the phone, ending calls midway or always being busy when you call are clear signs you should back off.
3. S/he is ignoring you: When someone is interested, they SHOW interest. If on the other hand, the other avoids places where you could be, does not tell you where s/he would be (for fear you would land up there), does not take your calls, blocks you on instant-messenger and does not respond to SMS-es (even after five days), they are definitely NOT interested.
4. S/ he hopes you will find someone “better” for yourself: It means they are hoping that you would leave them alone and get on with your life. When you are clearly interested in someone and they are giving you the “find someone better” line, it means they wish you’d rather put your interest and affections elsewhere and not on them. Many times people are not comfortable telling another to buzz-off on their faces and employ this tactic hoping the other would get the message.
5. S/ he wants to be ‘friends’ with you forever…: Wanting to “be friends” is the most classic and perhaps the biggest sign that the other is not interested. ‘Being friends’ here should not be confused with the other person valuing you; instead it means the person definitely does NOT see you as a romantic interest. Wanting to be friends is perhaps their way of telling you that ‘friendship’ is all they want from their association with you and is a polite way of telling you to move on.
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